INEFFECTIVE PARENTING.

INEFFECTIVE PARENTING
Very sad for Children to have parent that are backward in parenting.And sadly sad to be a parent without focus .parent with no calculation of what it takes to be parent.some  folks crazily  raise children they werent ready to cater for
Hence,we need to focus more on our
(1)Relationship with God
(2)Character
However,we need both strong desire and external persuasion to build good and godly character. This led us to the role of fatherhood in character development and destiny fulfilment for their Children
Alas,it takes two to tango.It takes the combine role of fathers & mothers to secure the future of the next generation single parenting is not God's idea it's necessitated by the failing and frailty of mortals.
Children raised by  functional parents stands out!
A job for two cannot be effectively done by one.This is one important reason marriage must be prioritized before rearing children.
Casual relationships is a threat to future generation.The madness of "baby mama" among celebrity is demonic and must stop.
Children need real fathers and mothers not caretakers.Money can't train a child,it takes real home with functional parents to raise kids.Hence,we need the commandments of our fathers and the instructions of our mothers to fulfill our glorious destinies
The rod and reproof give wisdom:but a child left to himself bringeth his MOTHER to shame.(Proverbs 29:15)
It is pathetic that women are submerged in pursuit of carrier excellence at the detriment of their children total wellbeing
Nannies or Grandmas cannot substitute for Mummy's tender touch in a child's life
The bonding of a mother with the children is next to none in character modification
Many lose their children between the age of three months to seven years.These is the age where mother's care is needed the most
It is not enough to buy your baby "mother care" products What the baby need is a real mother care which the father cannot offer.
Marriage is partnership.
I often tell ladies with listening ears not to open their legs for crazy or callous men
Don't open the legs till you are bonded in marriage. If he is not good enough as husband why accept to nurture his seed
Children outside wedlock breeds tension and often times the man uses them as a weapon of unfair bargain and to emotionally blackmail the woman
A woman's destiny can be ruined by unprepared pregnancy.Women wise up!
Fathers introduce the baby to the mother's womb, and mother will have to introduce the baby back to their father.This is the reason only the mother can tell a child who his father is.If the mother fail in connecting with the children the seed of rebellion will be sown in them and the father's authority will be resisted.
This is one of the reason single parenting produces dis-junctional children, God's ideal is father and mother collaboration in child rearing.The home entails father's authority and mother's influence so mothers have a pivotal role to play in the making of the future generation, as it is,nobody can influence a child like the mother.Women are losing their power of influence over their children because they are too busy for real work of parenting.
They have left their primary assignment for nannies and house helps. Remember a child left to himself brings shame to his mother not his father, there is a reason people blame the mother for the bad character of a child before remembering the father and the singular reason is, mothers are entrusted with the innocence of their children.They are given innocent children from birth and God expect mothers to begin work from day one the baby is formed in the womb. Therefore there are basic work a real mother should do to secure the destinies of her children:
As God determines destinies,your character certainly determine it fulfilment.Beacause possibly great destinies can be aborted on the altar of bad character. So to achieve your destiny you must consistently work on your character.Therefore, to the Parents,your children are your future and If you want to secure the future,you must work on your children's character.
Nothing contest the destiny of a child like bad character.
Bad character/attitude is self defeatists
Hence,parents must secure their wades future before it is too late
Five Basic Responsibility/Work Of A Real Mother Towards Their Children
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(1)Mothers Are Incubators.To incubate is to hide the baby from harm.Mothers have a responsibility to hide their children from premature exposure and things that could be injurious to their wellbeing.Incubation starts from pregnancy.The mother is careful of what she eat and it goes on till the child matures to take informed and profitable decisions.There is a thin line between incubation and overbearing.Mothers should not be overbearing nor should they be nonchalant.
This is sorted out by the other roles of motherhood
(2)Mothers Are Counsellors.A counsellor is a teacher,an adviser.Successful children have commanding fathers and instructive mothers.
Mothers responsibility is to explain the father's commands to their children.
It takes the instructions of mothers for children to obey the commandments of their fathers hence,mothers instructions must not conflict fathers commandments.It takes oneness from father and mother to rear godly children
(3)Mothers Are Practitioner.Children imbibes their mother's behavior.At tender age,children cognition is shaped by what they see their mothers do.
Mothers most purposefully model godly behavior if they intend raising godly children.A mother that lives vain life cannot nurture godly children.
Actions speak louder than words!